REALITYCHECK

Don’t allow the pressure of creating the “perfect wedding” to keep you from focusing on what really matters. Weddings are a time for celebration, don't lose focus. Engagements on their own are a period to prepare for the expected role changes, don't spend this time arguing and fighting about budgets such that when you do start living together seeds of animosity have already been sown.

Listen to each other, consult and make sure decisions are mutual. Take this time to work on both your communication skills, practice compromise and take time to learn a lot about how your partner handles stress- this no doubt is your mirror into how difficult issues will be handled in your household.

Marriages are sacred, remember they involve making a covenant hence do not forget the spiritual aspect in your walk down 'I DO'. Take advantage of couple's counseling, anything that will draw you closer to your partner spiritually should be taken advantage of.

Do not be too focused on the material- dress, shoes, make up, etc and neglect this marriage you are seeking to build. You could also find a married couple to mentor you or read some of the great marriage books available.

Do yourself a favor, focus on your fiancee and who you want to be in the marriage, and plan more than a wedding day—plan to build a marriage.